It’s time. Time to help support all of the important work that Foothills is doing to unleash courageous love in Northern Colorado and beyond. It’s time to affirm what Foothills means to you and your family personally. And, it’s time to thoughtfully consider your financial commitment and the ways that love calls each of us, and all of us together to respond to the challenges and hopes of our world today.
It’s time to answer the call of love.
We ask all friends and members to keep an eye on your snail mailbox during the next few days – you’ll find information on the ways we’ve been growing, and the ways we are all needed to respond to the needs of today – to meet the rising fear and hatred with a bolder, more courageous love.
To dive in now, be sure to check out our website to see where we have been and where we are going as we discover what it will mean to Answer the Call of Love.
Thank you for your generous support of Foothills and for making all that we do together possible – Kay Williams, Stewardship Team Chair
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Hello Foothills Family –
As I sat down to write this blog in mid-November, I wondered if an update on our governance progress was the right thing to post right now, when hearts and minds are brimming with holidays and an uncertain future. Our community continues to come together with hands held and tears shared in Sunday services. In November we stood and clapped to display our solidarity in being right here, in the United States, at this time, as a community that is already practicing with each other the accepting message we could share with the country. And I think – we have big work to do. Let’s get this organizing stuff done to smooth the path for what’s ahead. To that end, the Governance Task Force is striving to support our mission and channel our energy in our governance work.
- Last April, the Board confirmed our Vision of Governance, a statement that is guiding the detailed tasks of writing our future policies. Participants in the summer book group thought it was a great statement, and encouraged us to share it more widely. Here is a link.
- Over the summer, we conducted a book discussion group on Ministry and Governance by Dan Hotchkiss. We continue to follow the guidance of the book, other congregations of our size, and the advice of leaders in our church and beyond.
- In September, we affirmed that we are indeed pursuing a policy based governance approach, though not the Carver model.
- In September and October, the Governance Task Force has been working with the Board. We have presented several open questions for discussion around the topics of board role, size, officers, and member election. While we discuss, we are keeping in mind the potential that bylaw changes may be required.
- In October, Gretchen joined our team, adding her knowledge of the workings of our church, and experience in administration, to our deliberation.
- November continued iterative discussions with the Board on topics of committees, delegation, and work products.
- During December, we will continue to ask the Board questions that guide our writing process. Topics coming up include Oversight and Guidance.
- Also during December, we will be connecting with the leaders of several of our current teams and committees, to understand where they are in reviewing their charter and procedures, and to ensure we are blending our expectations. Teams we plan to get in touch with include Nominating Committee, Personnel Committee and Staff, and Finance.
- In January, we plan to hold a Congregational Discussion session on the items that have been affirmed by the Board. This will be an ideal place for those interested in the details of governance to see policies so far and ask questions.
- Also in January, we plan to drop in on small groups in the church with quick info to keep everyone updated.
- All of our work through the spring will target having major decisions made and ready for a trial period during our 2017-2018 church year. We will present that plan at our congregational meeting in May.
A reward from this work so far is to see the convergence of ideas. Careful study and thoughtful decisions are aligning with current good practices. Thankfully, some things can be easy and make sense. 🙂
May you all enjoy having some things fall into place as well, and enjoy a safe and blessed holiday season.
Chair, Governance Task Force
“Welcome to Foothills; sorry we don’t have any seats left!”
Have you noticed how full the church is on Sunday mornings? While it’s wonderful that so many people are coming to church, the members of the Board of Trustees are wondering how many folks we are unwittingly turning away, with the message that there’s no room for anyone new here.
Our parking lots are full; the sanctuary – even if there are a few seats available here and there – looks full; there is often a scramble to put out enough chairs in the Social Hall at the start of services for the overflow from the sanctuary. It’s easy to see how a newcomer may feel discouraged from coming back and finding their spiritual home with us.
Aligning with our congregation’s new mission statement to “unleash courageous love in Northern Colorado and beyond,” The Board of Trustees has enthusiastically asked the ministers and staff to explore adding a third service to Sunday mornings at Foothills Unitarian Church. For now we mainly want to make more space to serve the people already coming and to keep them coming.
Beginning in February 2017, and continuing for 12 Sundays through April, the “Third Service Experiment” will be conducted. The times of the three services will be 8:00am, 9:30am and 11:30am. There will be a short social hour from 9:00-9:30 and a longer one from 10:30-11:30. The nursery will be open and pre-K through 2nd grade religious education (single classroom) will be offered at 8:00; the other two services will continue with the current arrangements for the 9 and 11 services.
More details will be coming from the staff team, and the Board will be hosting an informational forum on January 18. Throughout the experiment, we want to hear from YOU about how it is working… there will be regular opportunities to give us your input and dialogue with church leaders.
We look forward to learning from this experiment and using your feedback to prepare for a longer term third service effort. Together we are Unleashing Courageous Love!
This past Sunday, we had 180% more of you than usual, and it was what writer Glennon Doyle Melton calls “brutiful,” a combination of beautiful, and brutal. Beautiful to gather, beautiful to sing, to breathe, to laugh and cry and simply come together after a week where, as I said on Sunday, we experienced a “global plot twist.” I could feel the force of love among us. But also brutal, because what inspired so many to show up on Sunday was pain, grief, anger, fear, even despair. It was one of the most powerful Sundays I’ve ever experienced, and I’d give nearly anything for it not to have been necessary.
As we move forward, I want to clarify and underscore two commitments of our faith and our congregation that I hope you’ll help me uphold.
First, we still don’t do shame in our church. We don’t shame each other for who we voted for – no matter who that is, or for coming to different conclusions than we have about big and complex topics, or about how we will move through these complicated times (aka, life).
The emerging future is going to require a lot of learning. And learning requires imperfection, humility, laughter, and grace. We’re going to screw up a lot, and we’re going to state strong opinions that later we realize we were wrong about. A few months ago I preached on what it feels like to be wrong, exploring some of the ideas in the TED Talk by Kathryn Schulz What she says is that being wrong feels exactly the same as being right – only once we realize we are wrong does it feel differently.
We have to give each other and ourselves the space to be wrong, without shame. In place of shame, let us ask more generous questions (the topic of our Wednesday night Civil Conversations gathering by the way!). Instead of shame, try to listen for what’s hurting, what’s being wrestled with, what value is being expressed.
Growth and change require a level of safety – which is not the same as comfort. We need to create safe spaces where we can be uncomfortable together. This is the sweet spot of deep learning – real transformation, and courageous love.
Which brings me to the second commitment: there’s still no “them;”only us. Our world seeks to divide us, to harden the categories of who is worthy, who is good, who suffers the most, who is to blame, who is the enemy, and who is our kin. Our religious lens asks us to not let the categories, or our hearts be hardened to any other, but to keep up the practices that grow more supple hearts, hearts of compassion that can hold ever more complexity and willingness to see ourselves in the other. (This is the work of our upcoming Healing the Heart of Democracy series.)
This second commitment does not mean that we don’t have strong convictions. We are called to a practice of compassion with boundaries, covenant by way of self-differentiation. As my message on Sunday proclaimed, our faith compels us in this moment to a greater justice, a braver and bolder living out of our principles, our living Unitarian Universalist tradition, and our mission. Wherever hatred has been unleashed, we are called to unleash courageous love. The great discipline before us is to discern what that love looks like, and what it asks of us. And for that, we need each other and our religious community, more than ever.
Thank you for being present in the struggle, learning together, and unleashing courageous love for one another, and for our greater world. I have never been more grateful for this community, and our promise and commitment that we are all in this together.
Last week I wrote on my blog about my search for a personal mission statement for the coming year, something that would ground and focus my ministry with you for the coming year. There are so many worthy things that might pull on our time and attention – but what are the right things for this year, this time – for who we are now, and what we are called to become in our emerging future?
Inspired by the book, Simple Church, I have discerned a three-point mission statement for myself as I move fully into my senior ministry with you. Here it is: Lead and call us towards our bigger mission and vision; support, develop, lead and work in partnership with our staff team; and recruit, support, develop, lead, and work in partnership with our lay leaders. Here are a few notes on what I am thinking about with each of these areas of focus.
- Lead and call us towards our bigger mission and vision. Over the past few years in conversation, worship, learning, and service, we have been discerning both implicitly and explicitly a new mission and vision for our shared ministry. The explicit part of this work is most obvious in the work of our Mission Task Force, which has articulated a new mission statement – the first update in nearly 20 years! – for our congregation. And yet, even more than this specific “mission statement” work, this element of my ministry focus is about calling us towards our individual and collective sense of vocation, our larger purpose in the world as a Unitarian Universalist congregation in this time, and this place – to ask questions, invite conversation, and prioritize opportunities where we can, as an organization – keep discerning and remain connected to this greater purpose. This focus shows up in the way I lead worship and oversee our worship calendar, as well as in how I partner with other leaders in establishing our ministry and programming calendar. This area of focus is the foundation for the partnerships I am building with interfaith and non-profit leaders in our community, and it is the driving force for my work and witness for justice in our Northern Colorado community, as well as for my continued collaboration with other Unitarian Universalist congregations in our area, across Colorado, and beyond.
- Support, develop, lead and work in partnership with our staff team. As a large congregation with a growing professional staff, it is increasingly true that successful ministries are led and supported through paid staff. Despite what you might anticipate, this increased role of staff does not take away lay partnership, but rather studies show that the more consistent the presence of a paid staff person, the more consistently you can recruit and retain volunteer partners. We are incredibly lucky to have an amazing staff team at Foothills. An incredible staff team deserves professional development, consistent supervision, clear lines of accountability, a supportive work environment, robust communication, and intentional leadership both for the staff members individually and for the staff team as a whole. Especially as we bring on our new assistant minister, Sean Neil-Barron this month (just one more week!), this element of my ministry is one of the most critical ways that I can reach out to all 1200 adults, children and youth who consider themselves a part of our community. This ministry priority led our staff team to develop a staff covenant in the past few months, and is the reason I am committed to re-convening a Personnel Committee to advise me and the Board as we establish new Personnel policies, Human Resources practices, and compensation standards.
- Recruit, support, develop, lead, and work in partnership with our lay leaders. As we’ve been blessed with incredible staff, we’ve also been amazingly blessed with so many dedicated, passionate, and healthy lay leaders. It always amazes me how much depth of commitment, capacity and dedication there exists within our congregation. And yet, I am aware that we are always at risk of turning to the same 30 or 40 people – even in a congregation our size – to do the work of the church. Rather than leveraging our full power as a large community, this potential practice keeps us limited both in terms of who feels a sense of ownership in our mission and vision, and in terms of our impact in people’s lives and in our larger community. We need to keep drawing the circle wider. We need to ask who isn’t yet leading and serving in partnership, and then help them find their place. But this recruitment is just the beginning, from there we need to support and develop our leaders, ensuring they have the training, skills and ongoing partnership so that they can feel like what they are doing matters and is making a difference – that it is playing a part in that big picture noted in item #1 above. This area of ministry will show up this year in my partnership with the Nominating Committee as we seek a new model that will better and more systematically identify, recruit and train leaders in our congregation. Our hope is that we can create a path of service and leadership that is intentional, integrated with our faith formation, and forward-thinking. And most of all this ministry focus will show up in my support of and partnership with the many lay leaders already doing the work of our church: Board members (and their task forces – Governance, Mission, and others), stewardship leaders, committee on shared ministry leaders, finance leaders, personnel committee members, nominating committee members, worship leaders, justice leaders, and through partnership with Sean’s ministry, parish visitors, caring team members, small group leaders, and membership ministry leaders.
Coming to this focus for my ministry for the coming year has been liberating and immensely clarifying. It is not set in stone as I may discover throughout the year that something needs to be changed somewhat – but I have been sitting with it long enough now that I think it’s pretty close to just right. It also doesn’t mean that I will only do these things – but rather that these things will take priority, and that in all of my ministry, I will be asking how and if it serves one or more of these three areas of focus.
Maybe you notice what isn’t listed here – things like faith formation, pastoral care, or small groups – that have been a big part of my ministry with you up until this point. Not to worry, I remain as committed to these things as ever, and until Sean is fully up to speed over these next few months, they will remain in my sight and work. And yet, my job over these next few months is to begin to hand over these things to Sean – to introduce him to the many of you who help make these ministries so meaningful and important, and then to support you all as you take up a new partnership in this work together.
As I take up this ministry, I wonder if you have your own version of a mission for the coming church year? What would you say is your ministry mission – those things that are just yours to do in your lives, in the world, and in our congregation as a result of your specific gifts, calling, and convictions of faith? Play with some ideas- three is a good number – sit with them for a while, see how they feel. Write them down for yourself, and when you’re ready, tell someone else in our congregation what you’re thinking. Exchange ideas, and commitments. Help each other live up to your mission. Let’s keep growing, and learning, together.
With love, and in partnership,
Five Foothills members – in addition to our current and future ministerial team Rev. Gretchen Haley, Diana McLean, and Sean Neil-Barron, attended the UU General Assembly (GA) in Columbus, Ohio, the last week of June. It was, as always a powerful and somewhat overwhelming experience of learning, encouraging and clarifying all who gathered in our faith, values, and sense of purpose.
One of our delegates, Erin Hottenstein, shared her highlights from GA in her reflection last week. This week, we invited the other four delegates to share their one big take-away from their GA experience. Here’s what they had to say:
- The powerful Sunday Morning Worship experience.
Judy Ohs writes, “I looked forward to Sunday morning at GA, remembering the last time I attended it was a very moving service, and I was not disappointed.
Glen Thomas Rideout was in charge of the music and choir, which was awesome. He also read a poem he had written about the anture of God, saying god is waiting to be unshrunk!
Nancy McDonald Ladd gave a sermon, ‘In All Thy Getting, Get Understanding,’ with as much energy, humor and meaningful challenge as any I have ever heard. She admonished us to ‘STOP having FALSE FIGHTS’ in our congregations – those fights about insignificant things like ‘the color of the paint for the bathroom,’ and instead get out in the mainstream of our lives, resisting things harmful to ourselves and others, and promoting the things needed for just living for all. She said when we don’t get our way, we are ‘lovers of leaving’ (referencing the hymn, Come, Come, who ever you are), and that we need to put our personal preferences aside, and instead have the real and hard conversations with each other. Only this will allow us to create real change, rather than becoming thoroughly agitated, but fundamentally unchanged. She ended by saying that we need to ‘step more fully into encounters with the holy and the world,’ and in doing so we can love more and speak more. We can reach out to someone whose hand is near to find support and keep it real. The service ended with us all singing ‘Reach out and Touch Somebody’s Hand.’
It is my sincere hope that each of you will take the time to watch this service (video posted above). It will lift your spirit and challenge your soul, and perhaps help you move out into the world to help create the change we need.”
Lindsay Smith added: “I have one request of our Foothills family: please watch the Sunday service. I found it deeply moving and hope we can use it as a common point of reference going forward.”
2. The welcome for young adults.
Lindsay Smith writes: “As a first-time delegate to General Assembly, I appreciated the Planning Committee’s dedication to creating a welcoming space for young adults. Not only did the UUA set aside resources to help young adults get to GA, but supported us the whole week. We had dedicated staff and seating blocked off in the large general sessions. We even had ‘General Session Bingo’ to keep things interesting.
Many times I went back to the helpful guide on young adult programming in our (jam-packed!) schedule. I attended workshops on topics from interfaith work to the role of spirituality in mental health. I was happy to see many folks of other generations participating with us, too.
I was overjoyed to represent our congregation in the banner parade alongside my partner Nick. I felt proud to represent our Foothills community and loved seeing Rev. Gretchen, our president Erin, our new minister Sean, and many others cheering for us as we sang through the aisles.
Then, it was time to get down to business. The overarching theme of this year’s GA was racial justice. Youth and young adult UUs of color inspired me by sharing their deeply personal stories. They called us to immediate action with strength, courage, and love. Workshops on anti-racism helped start some of the uncomfortable but necessary conversations that need to take place among UUs and in the wider community.
GA left me inspired to connect with UUs both inside our home church and beyond. It was great to compare notes with delegates from churches across the country.
3. The Choir
Nick Marconi writes, ‘Choir is a decision.’ These are the words with which Dr. Glen Rideout opened each rehearsal at GA, offering various reflections on the notion. Choir is a setting aside of time to come together and join in fellowship and purpose. Choir is the realization of the idea that we are stronger and more capable working in harmony—the embodiment of the mantra, “I put my hand in yours so that we may do together what we cannot do alone.” Choir is no mere blending of voices; it is a congregation, and it is deliberate.
In a week where very little else seemed deliberate, 180 of us dedicated ourselves to bringing the Sunday worship services to life. For me, it wasn’t the size of the choir or the audience that brought great meaning; 180 celebrants performing for a crowd of 3,000 is neither the largest ensemble nor audience I’ve experienced—even in Columbus itself, a city I had called home for many years. The real meaning came from the unity of purpose in a room that had lacked it over the course of several painful general sessions. The morning service brought renewed focus to disparate hearts. The afternoon service with Rev. Sekou and The Holy Ghost granted catharsis for those of us who have become all-too- frustrated not only with the prevailing tragedies of the world, but also with the perennial failures of conscience emerging from GA.
I cannot understand how we as a movement fail time and again to make meaningful solidarity with oppressed peoples. I cannot fathom the denominational cognitive dissonance it takes to be so moved by the reminder of our continual need to improve our relationships with minority communities and speak hard truths to those we call allies yet shirk away when called to take action. I pity what Rev. Dr. Susan Ritchie calls our institutional addiction to dysfunctional process that truly impairs our ability to live up to our best vision of ourselves.
I have little, if any, control over the course of global events or the UUA. But just as I had in GA, I can still choose to share music in my small part of the world. Choir is a decision, and I will always make that decision.”
4. Commitments for Social Witness
Shirley White writes, “CSWAIWCS/AI Huh? I put my volunteer efforts at GA here, hoping it would give me knowledge I could share back home. Indeed, it did! Wanting to support this important work of our denomination, still I had to keep refreshing myself on what all those letters mean. They mean a lot! They imply work too important to be buried in acronyms and jargon.So let me translate….
Commission on Social Witness (CSW) supports our efforts to do our social justice work focused each year by choices made at GA, to concentrate our efforts on work that we are best, perhaps uniquely, poised to do in our troubled world.
Congregational Study/Action Issues (CS/AI) are selected by UU member congregations for four years of study, reflection and action. This year, delegates picked our next four-year Congregational Study/Action Issue to be “Corruption of Our Democracy.”
Actions of Immediate Witness (AIWs) are issues deemed too immediate and important to go through a four year process. The Commissioners narrowed 8 completed proposals to 3, which the GA delegates passed overwhelmingly.
- expressing solidarity with Muslims,
- advocating gun reform following the Pulse nightclub massacre,
- affirming support for transgender people.
All will be further developed and highlighted in UU World.
We, at Foothills, do a lot of very important work. We might even be a standard bearer in the denomination. We could be more fully bringing our light to UUA/GA, by defining and proclaiming our commitment, particularly by sharing our successful collaboration with other communities and organizations in Fort Collins. Among others, we excel in programs of community collaboration in Faith Family Hospitality, One Village One Family, and our ministerial leadership in vigils and actions of solidarity with our minority communities in times of stress and trauma visited upon them in our troubled times.
We have light to offer, as well as the opportunity to bask in the healing light that our denomination shines on the world’s pain. By engaging with the UUA, we can do more, especially by learning and engaging with social witness statement process we may accomplish more, and even be prepared to bring more of Foothills light to GA in New Orleans, 2017.