Towards a Covenant of Right Relations – Join us for lunch December 6th

“If we agree in love, there is no disagreement that can do us any injury, but if we do not, no other agreement can do us any good. Let us endeavor to keep the unity of the spirit in the bonds of peace.” – 19th Century Universalist Minister, Hosea Ballou

One of the great benefits of Russell Lockwood Leadership School was making contact with UU’s from other congregations around the western USA, and learning from their experiences.  I’m put in mind of this incredible resource today because our Transition Team is beginning work on a “covenant of right relations” for Foothills.  Peter Caldwell of Unitarian Universalist Church of Long Beach (CA) was kind enough to share his congregation’s excellent example with us at RLLS, and I’ve referred to it countless times in the months since.  I offer it here as an example, and to prime the pump of our congregation’s work towards something similar:

Covenant of Right Relations -Adopted by UUCLB at Congregational Meeting Nov. 1, 2009

We covenant to build a religious community guided by respect and sustained by our principles. We want to listen appreciatively, speak with care, express gratitude, honor our differences and assume good intentions. We endeavor to communicate directly, honestly and compassionately, particularly when we are in conflict. When we hurt one another, we will try to forgive, make amends and reconnect in a spirit of right relationship. In celebration of the common purpose that unites us, we will do our best to abide by this covenant.

If you like the sound of UUCLB’s covenant and want to be part of drafting a similar guide for our community, I hope you’ll consider attending the Transition Team’s Right Relations Workshop on Saturday, December 6th, at 11:00 a.m. in the social hall at church.

See you Sunday,

–Rich Young


Transitions Team member, Jen Iole adds:

Please join us for lunch on December 6th where Rev. Gretchen Haley and I will be facilitating a workshop to help us, as a community decide how we go about the important work of communicating with each other.  This time of transition is meant to bring up ideas  for growth, change, direction, and focus.  Not everybody will agree with the ideas and not all the ideas will be put into action.  The important thing to remember is that as we disagree, we stay in “Right Relations”.  We’ll discuss that during the workshop and help craft a document that helps us move forward with open hearts and minds, working towards the best possible outcome for the church.  We look forward to your participation. 

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